Friday, October 17, 2014

The Capsule Wardrobe - Dressing With Intention

I am a HUGE fan of Jess Lively and her podcast, The Lively Show. She always has such great guests and last week was no exception, when she featured blogger Caroline of Unfancy. Caroline is a self proclaimed "unlikely fashion blogger" who documents her outfits that she creates with ONLY 37 PIECES on her blog! That's INCLUDING shoes! She calls it her capsule wardrobe and you can read more about that here.

So, I'm all about trying to live with intention and trying to live a minimalist lifestyle, so I too am attempting to create a fall/winter capsule collection and pare down my own closet. I started by downloading her FREE WORKSHEET that aims to get at the heart of your fashion personality so you can reduce your closet AND buy things you love.

I started last weekend and the first thing that happened was I got really overwhelmed. Why do I have so much shit, but still feel like I have nothing to wear! Well it's because I buy stuff that's not "me" and then keep it around in my closet because I bought it. Then I begrudgingly wear it, but never feel like it's something I love. So after losing my mind for a minute. I started divying up things and I still am, but I feel better about the direction my wardrobe is heading in. I'll update you all when I've completed my collection (I'm giving myself a $600 budget).

*My cheat: I've signed up with Le Tote where I am able to rent unlimited clothing and accessories over the internet. So, I'm able to supplement my wardrobe for a monthly fee and/or buy items I love for a discounted price!


Wednesday, October 1, 2014

How do you do it all... I don't. A lesson from Shonda Rhimes.

    I love my life. I have three TV shows at work and I have three daughters at home. And it’s all amazing, and I am truly happy. And people are constantly asking me, how do you do it?
    And usually, they have this sort of admiring and amazed tone.

    Shonda, how do you do it all?

    Like I’m full of magical magic and special wisdom-ness or something.

    How do you do it all?

    And I usually just smile and say like, “I’m really organized.” Or if I’m feeling slightly kindly, I say, “I have a lot of help.”

    And those things are true. But they also are not true.

    And this is the thing that I really want to say. To all of you. Not just to the women out there. Although this will matter to you women a great deal as you enter the work force and try to figure out how to juggle work and family. But it will also matter to the men, who I think increasingly are also trying to figure out how to juggle work and family. And frankly, if you aren’t trying to figure it out, men of Dartmouth, you should be. Fatherhood is being redefined at a lightning-fast rate. You do not want to be a dinosaur.

    So women and men of Dartmouth: As you try to figure out the impossible task of juggling work and family and you hear over and over and over again that you just need a lot of help or you just need to be organized or you just need to try just a little bit harder … as a very successful woman, a single mother of three, who constantly gets asked the question “How do you do it all?” For once I am going to answer that question with 100 percent honesty here for you now. Because it’s just us. Because it’s our fireside chat. Because somebody has to tell you the truth.

    Shonda, how do you do it all?

    The answer is this: I don’t.

    Whenever you see me somewhere succeeding in one area of my life, that almost certainly means I am failing in another area of my life.

    If I am killing it on a Scandal script for work, I am probably missing bath and story time at home. If I am at home sewing my kids’ Halloween costumes, I’m probably blowing off a rewrite I was supposed to turn in. If I am accepting a prestigious award, I am missing my baby’s first swim lesson. If I am at my daughter’s debut in her school musical, I am missing Sandra Oh’s last scene ever being filmed at Grey’s Anatomy. If I am succeeding at one, I am inevitably failing at the other. That is the tradeoff. That is the Faustian bargain one makes with the devil that comes with being a powerful working woman who is also a powerful mother. You never feel a hundred percent OK; you never get your sea legs; you are always a little nauseous. Something is always lost.

    Something is always missing.

    And yet. I want my daughters to see me and know me as a woman who works. I want that example set for them. I like how proud they are when they come to my offices and know that they come to Shondaland. There is a land and it is named after their mother. In their world, mothers run companies. In their world, mothers own Thursday nights. In their world, mothers work. And I am a better mother for it. The woman I am because I get to run Shondaland, because I get write all day, because I get to spend my days making things up, that woman is a better person—and a better mother. Because that woman is happy. That woman is fulfilled. That woman is whole. I wouldn’t want them to know the me who didn’t get to do this all day long. I wouldn’t want them to know the me who wasn’t doing.

    – Excerpted from Shonda Rhimes’ Dartmouth College commencement address, June 8, 2014

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