Friday, July 31, 2009

Crafting for the boys...

So, I've finally made something out of that big pile of fabric I showed you!

Pillows, which my son has already taken a liking to throwing and catching and a baby blanket for Na'im. The pillows are for what I'm deeming their cozy corner in their room. I will probably be making one more pillow and then a floor mat for that area. I'm also in the process of making another baby blanket and a boppy cover for Na'im as well.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

My Adventures in Bedsharing and Co-Sleeping

I write this post while I am a week into having my son sleeping in his own bed! But we are still co-sleeping. How is this possible you ask?

Well, co-sleeping as defined by API is actually sleeping in "close proximity," which means the child is on a separate sleep surface in the same room as the parents. This includes the use of a cosleeping bassinet or "sidecar," which is a crib-like bed with only three walls, with the fourth side remaining open and pushed up against the parents' bed. For the older child, this can include sleeping in a separate bed in the same room as the parents, or two or more older siblings sleeping together in a separate room.

When we first had our son we invested in a co-sleeper which he basically never slept in, it was too easy to just keep him in bed with us especially with my breastfeeding throughout the night. As an aside, I never understood why people would put their children in a totally separate room when all you're going to be doing is marching back and forth to said room for feedings and changing throughout the night, but I digress. Also, even if he fell asleep in our bed as soon as I moved him to the co-sleeper and he felt that unfamiliar mattress he would wake up! In order for all of us to get more sleep we decided bedsharing it was!

Bedsharing also called the "family bed," describes a sleep arrangement where the family members sleep on the same sleep surface. This practice is recommended for only for breastfeeding families using API's Safe Sleep Guidelines.

We have had a family bed basically from our son's birth until a week ago. That is not to say that it's all been a bed of roses. As our son has grown this delightful little bundle of joy turned into a jumble of arms and legs that could land on you in the middle of a peaceful sleep without any warning. While I got the head of our son, his little noggin snuggled next to mine, arms wrapped around my neck in a loving embrace. My husband often got the tail end of our son replete with kicks to the tummy and feet in the face. We also received unwanted advice from people who "care", but do not practice Attachment Parenting. The refrain of Is He Sleeping Through the Night? and other well intentioned, but intrusive questions and advice on our sleeping arrangements. I was even BLAMED for why our son couldn't sleep without us.

Some of this advice led to a one time use of trying the Cry It Out method. That was tormenting for both my son and I. We would wait 5 min. of crying go check on him, then we were supposed to increase the intervals. Our son WAILED and every time we tried this method (for about 3-4 days) he was so scared, so in shock that he would SOIL himself. That is how upset CIO made him. After that would happen I would just try and comfort him (he would be shaking with fear) and put him back into our bed. NEVER AGAIN! I learned from that not to be intimidated by well meaning, but intrusive people again.

So, then when our son turned two (and daddy was again tired of the midnight sleeping kicks) we bought the book The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers by Elizabeth Pantley, which was a God send. Imagine a book where no one is ridiculing your parenting methods or telling you that what you're doing is wrong, but tells you how (if you would like to) to get your toddler to sleep on their own. Well, we tried some of the suggestions to get him to sleep in his toddler bed in his own room, but after one night of sleeping in there until about 1 am (a coup in our household) he promptly told us, "I don't want my bed", this is now a great family joke and source of laughter for my husband and I. So, what did we do, we ended up moving him back to our bed, knowing that we had a plan for moving him to his own bed in due time.

One of the suggestions that Pantley makes in her book is that for children who have bedshared to start to co-sleep in the family bedroom in their own bed. Well, that made a lot of sense the transition is much smoother from sleeping with mommy and daddy to sleeping beside mommy and daddy versus sleeping in a whole different room (my son has also developed a little fear of "monsters", I have no idea where this came from). So, two weeks ago I ordered him a new toddler bed (to make this milestone more meaningful for him) and told him he'd be getting a new bed and a "mama luvie" (which eneded up being a teddybear with a heart on him).

When the bed arrived our son helped mommy put it together, helped me make the bed, and we put the mama luvie in the bed. We then went through our regular nightime routine, when it came time for us to go to sleep I told him that he was now ready to sleep in his own bed, but that it was right next to mommy and daddy's bed and if he needed us all he had to do was call us and we'd be there. I also explained to him why he was going to be sleeping in a new bed, I told him that he's getting so big that we could no longer all fit in one bed and that sometimes daddy gets hurt at night when we're all in there.

He still looked dubious, so I asked him if he'd like me to lay in there with him for a little while and he said yes. So, I laid in bed with him until he went to sleep then went to my own bed less than two feet away. He woke up about three times, two of those times to say mommy and I would give him a hug or rub his back and one of those times for a drink of water. By the third day I no longer had to lay with him until he went to sleep, I told him he could lay in there by himself and if he wanted he could hug the teddy, because the teddy loves hugs.

In the middle of this we went away on vacation and went back to bedsharing for two nights and I was afraid he'd regress, but he's back to sleeping in his own bed and life is sweet. No more kicking of the daddy, more room for my pregnant belly, and a little boy that is sleeping in his own bed, proud of his accomplishment, and confident in the fact that his parents are there for him even in the middle of the night.

We base our sleeping arrangements on this Attachment Parenting Principle:
Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally: Babies and children have needs at night just as they do during the day; from hunger, loneliness, and fear, to feeling too hot or too cold. They rely on parents to soothe them and help them regulate their intense emotions. Sleep training techniques can have detrimental physiological and psychological effects. Safe co-sleeping has benefits to both babies and parents.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Etsy Love Thursdays!

I Took The Handmade Pledge!

This will be a new feature on my blog. Every Thursday I will be sharing my favorite Etsy items and/or sellers. Now, if you've been reading this blog, you would know that I LOVE FABRIC! So, today's Etsy Love Thursday will feature my favorite fabric sellers on Ebay.

Eden's Garden of Fabric
So summery and bright, I see this as throw pillows for your enclosed patio!

Fabric Lane
I would love this as throw pillows on a neutral couch!

Fabric Worm
I see this in a mod nursery for a little boy!

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

The Un-Nursery is Coming Along

I call it an un-nursery because our children will be sleeping in our room (Hass-man in his new bed - hopefully for more than 2-3 hrs and Na'im in his co-sleeper). So, their room will be more for play, dressing, and homework (yes my 2yr. old has homework during the school year). So, without further ado here is what will be in the un-nursery:

Ikea Curtains & Rug

Wordless Wednesday: Perfect Little Office

Source: Design*Sponge

I want to make an office so bad, but I cannot find the right desk to save my life. I had found one on Craigs List that I loved, but the seller sold it from under me. :(

Monday, July 20, 2009

Product Recalls & Your Children

In preparation for my new little blessing I'd been making a list of what we already have and what we need to buy. Well, I also decided to take a trip to the government's recall website and I was surprised to learn that TWO things we had for Hass-man was now being recalled!

One was his crib/toddler bed (Simplicity Drop Side Cribs) which thank goodness he never really slept in since we co-sleep most times. This is why it was being recalled: The crib’s plastic hardware can break or deform, causing the drop side to detach. When the drop side detaches, it creates space between the drop side and the crib mattress. Infants and toddlers can roll into this space and become entrapped which can lead to suffocation.

The second item was his high-chair (Evenflo Envision™ High Chairs) due to: Recline fasteners and metal screws on both sides of the high chair can loosen and fall out, allowing the seatback to detach or recline unexpectedly. Children can fall backwards or fall out of the high chair and suffer bumps and bruises to the head, abrasions, cuts and bruises. Detached hardware also poses a choking hazard to children.

To think about the potential harm that could have come to the Hass-man or Na'im through these faulty products is horrifying, so I just wanted to make sure all moms and dads periodically check the US Government's Recall Database for products they own.

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Sewing Up A Storm...

Okay, maybe not a storm, but I've been energized. Last night I made the Hass-man a neck pillow for our trip to the beach next weekend. When he came downstairs he saw it, grabbed it, and said, "TOY!" I told him what it was for, but this morning on the way to his pre-school he mainly played with it, by bouncing it up and down. I had wanted to buy one for him (silly me) because when we went to NJ earlier this month, his head kept slumping, but then I saw a tutorial for making one yesterday. Now my mine is a bit skinnier than hers so I'm thinking about making another one tonight.

Here are some projects I'd like to complete before the summer is over:

A wet-bag - Tutorial

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

About the Baby Head Diarist

About the Baby Head Diarist:

I am a mother of two wonderful little boys, H and N.  H was born in 2007 and N was born in 2009.  They keep my life, hands, and heart full.

I am a firm believer in attachment parenting (AP) and have found that this approach to parenting is intuitive and speak to the desired outcome I have for my children’s future. For this reason, I will not engage in debates about the “rightness or wrongness” of AP, but I will offer information and insight on this type of parenting and may contrast it with what some may call “mainstream” parenting. My approach to AP manifests itself in my practices of breastfeeding, babywearing, co-sleeping, and positive discipline.

I am currently in a Masters of Management program with a concentration in Non-Profit/Association management and hope to use my education to become a "Professional Parent" offering educational services in the realm of Attachment Parenting, Lactation, Babywearing, and Montessori education.

I sometimes branch out from the topics of parenting into topics on design, décor, or crafting which I am involved in through both creating and admiring.


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Friday, July 10, 2009

3 Unnecessary but Awesome Baby Things

Here are some things I loved having with Hass-man as a baby that I will also be using with Na'im when he comes. They are (as the title says) unnecessary, but AWESOME!

  1. Wubanub pacifiers - They are soothie pacifiers (doctor recommended type of pacifier) with a little stuffed animal attached. Hassie wasn't that big on pacifiers (I used to hate when he would cry and people would say, give him a pacifier...I will not tell you what I wanted to say to them), but he loved to play with his wubanub, I think he just liked having something in his mouth that was attached to a toy because he didn't really suck on it, LOL!

  1. Bumbo seat - The Bumbo seat helps even small babies sit upright and I think it's a great way for them to see their world. We have one in lime green that will be passed on to Na'im and I hope he loves it as much as his big brother has. Babies can sit upright in a Bumbo Seat as soon as they have head control. More importantly, it helps them develop the trunk control they need to sit up on their own. It is recommended by pediatricians, orthopedists, and physical therapists. You can even buy them at Target now, I had to get mine from the Bumbo site in 2007.
  2. Infant to Toddler Rocker - We got this as a gift (a million thanks Kenda) and I first used it to put Hassie in when I needed to take a shower and he didn't want to get in the shower with me. He was happy that he could have full view of his mommy and a neat place to sit! Oh and he LOVED the fact that it VIBRATES! As an infant you can strap your child in, but when they get a little older you can just sit them in it and it works as a great seat or rocker. He's at the age where he doesn't like to keep still so it's rare that he sits in it and now Shrek and Mr. Monkey sit in it in the living room. But, soon a new Baby Williams will learn the wonders of this seat and mommy will once again be able to take showers and watch her munchkin at the same time!

Thursday, July 9, 2009

This Week in Blog Land..

*This is not my desk, but I love it and I will be getting a new desk soon so pics will be forthcoming!

Here's what I've been enjoying this week in the land of blogs:

What Have I been Up To?

I realize it's been a week since I've posted and I really like to post here at least twice a week, but three is even nicer. So, what have I been up to, you ask?

Well, the holiday came and the DH, Hass-man, and I all took a car trip to NJ to see the extended in-laws. We drove up there on the fourth and stayed the night, so it was a nice little daycation. Hass had a chance to meet some more of his family and play with his little cousin while we were there. He thoroughly enjoyed himself and danced himself silly at his great Uncle's barbecue! I had such a good time that I asked the DH when we could go back, we're thinking Thanksgiving, but the baby will only be a month old by then, so we'll play it by ear.

I've been in a bit of a nesting mode and have finally hung up some pictures I wanted to in the living room, cleaned out the master bathroom sink cabinet, and moved my old-fashioned telephone bench to the bottom of the stairs instead of the entryway (where it was becoming a junk landing pad!).

I also received the last of my fabric for the baby blankets this week and completed one of them, I will post pictures when I'm finished with the other one. With the extra flannel I've been thinking about making a special nap time blanket for Hass to take to pre-school. Speaking of sewing, I MUST get a rotary cutter or I'm going to be so mad at myself, scissors aren't always the best tool. Especially because I wanna make a mama-love lovie for Hass and it will be better for cutting around an intricate pattern.

Last, but not least, I've been contemplating some changes to the blog, both design wise and posting wise, but more on that later.

So, what have YOU been up to?

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Baby Basics by the Numbers

  • Cloth diapering: 20 Infant size diapers $188 + 2 packages of 10 washable liners $22 +
    3 rolls of flushable-biodegradable liners(100 sheets per roll) $24 = $234/yr. or + overnight disposables $21 pp (x 7 = $147) = $381/yr.
  • Disposable Diapers: $42-47 (106) x 26 wks. = $1,157/yr.
You save between $923 and $776 a year, won't that look nice in the savings account?

Breastfeeding vs Formula Feeding
  • Breastfeeding: Breasts $0 + Breast Pump $50-300 + Bottles (10) $30= $80-330/yr.

  • Formula Feeding: Formula $22-28/wk. x 52 wks= $1, 300 (avg.) + Bottles (10) $30 = $1,330/yr.
You save between $1,250 and $1,000 a year, that's a nice chunk of change!

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