Wednesday, June 24, 2009

There Will Be Blankets!

So I will be a sewing mama pretty soon and Na'im (you like how I slipped his name in there) will be getting blankets using the new David Walker Oh Boy line.

The blankets will be made using the Oh Boy Vehicles in Orange with a red flannel backing and the Oh Boy Animals in Red with a blue flannel backing. I bought all the fabric from Etsy *swoon*! The David Walker was from Cotton Thread Fabrics and the flannel was from Stitches by Annie (she's located in Canada). I can't wait to get it in my hot little hands and create my first homemade item for the newest addition to our family!

Oh Boy Vehicles in Orange
Oh Boy Animals in Red

Cotton Flannel in Solid Brights

Monday, June 22, 2009

Here's my 5 in no particular order.

1. The Medela Pump in Style: I got a cheaper hand pump the first time around and it was a struggle, so I want something that so many ppl. have had success with.

2. A full supply of Motherwear gowns: I had one Motherwear PJ set from my DH as a birthday gift, but I'm in love with this one: http://www.motherwear.com/images/pimages/04128_1.jpg

3. Condessa Nursing Bras & Underwear: I hadn't heard of them until this post, but they look LOVELY!

4. Babyhawk carriers: I would get at least three to suit different outfits! (LOL!) Starting at $80/ea. I think I'll just be buying one.

5. Dutalier glider: I just nursed on the couch or the bed most of the time with my first.

Oh Joy, Oh Joy!

We're having another boy!!!

Well, this makes designing the shared room MUCH easier. I will be working on a new inspiration board for that soon and ordering some fabric as well. I am so excited! I even bought his coming home outfit right after I found out (There is also a dark blue knit hat with lighter blue airplanes and booties that are striped, with the dark blue and light blue airplane print on the sole of the foot!):


Friday, June 19, 2009

Ode to the Daddy Man


Ode to the Daddy Man

You change the poop more than me
One day you'll teach him to stand and pee.
And when I don't feel my best
You play with him so I can rest.

Most of the time, you let me lead
And listen to the articles that I read.
You share the bed with all of us
Although when he kicks, you sometimes fuss.

Trips to the park and barbershop
Laughing and playing until you drop.
Kissing his face and alieving his fears
Hugging him close and wiping his tears.

Rubbing my tummy full of child
Willing to go that extra mile.
Making use laugh with a silly dance
Being the hero and killing the ants.

You are the man he wants to be
And I'm so glad you're married to me!

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Attachment Parenting

I believe in practicing attachment parenting and have recently joined Attachment Parenting International I was dismayed to find that there is not an API group in my vicinity, so I'm thinking about applying to start my own chapter for my area.

So, in my quest to further attachment parenting in the black community, here's a little quick and dirty guide to attachment parenting (or AP as it's sometimes called).

The essence of Attachment Parenting is about forming and nurturing strong connections between parents and their children. Attachment Parenting challenges us as parents to treat our children with kindness, respect and dignity, and to model in our interactions with them the way we'd like them to interact with others.

Attachment Parenting isn't new. In many ways, it is a return to the instinctual behaviors of our ancestors. In the last sixty years, the behaviors of attachment have been studied extensively by psychology and child development researchers, and more recently, by researchers studying the brain. This body of knowledge offers strong support for areas that are key to the optimal development of children, summarized below in API's Eight Principles of Parenting.

Attachment Parenting International's Eight Principles of Parenting

  • Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting -Become emotionally and physically prepared for pregnancy and birth. Research available options for healthcare providers and birthing environments, and become informed about routine newborn care. Continuously educate yourself about developmental stages of childhood, setting realistic expectations and remaining flexible.
  • Feed with Love and Respect - Breastfeeding is the optimal way to satisfy an infant's nutritional and emotional needs. "Bottle Nursing" adapts breastfeeding behaviors to bottle-feeding to help initiate a secure attachment. Follow the feeding cues for both infants and children, encouraging them to eat when they are hungry and stop when they are full. Offer healthy food choices and model healthy eating behavior.
  • Respond with Sensitivity -Build the foundation of trust and empathy beginning in infancy. Tune in to what your child is communicating to you, then respond consistently and appropriately. Babies cannot be expected to self-soothe, they need calm, loving, empathetic parents to help them learn to regulate their emotions. Respond sensitively to a child who is hurting or expressing strong emotion, and share in their joy.
  • Use Nurturing Touch -Touch meets a baby's needs for physical contact, affection, security, stimulation, and movement. Skin-to-skin contact is especially effective, such as during breastfeeding, bathing, or massage. Carrying or babywearing also meets this need while on the go. Hugs, snuggling, back rubs, massage, and physical play help meet this need in older children.
  • Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally -Babies and children have needs at night just as they do during the day; from hunger, loneliness, and fear, to feeling too hot or too cold. They rely on parents to soothe them and help them regulate their intense emotions. Sleep training techniques can have detrimental physiological and psychological effects. Safe co-sleeping has benefits to both babies and parents.
  • Provide Consistent and Loving Care -Babies and young children have an intense need for the physical presence of a consistent, loving, responsive caregiver: ideally a parent. If it becomes necessary, choose an alternate caregiver who has formed a bond with the child and who cares for him in a way that strengthens the attachment relationship. Keep schedules flexible, and minimize stress and fear during short separations.
  • Practice Positive Discipline -Positive discipline helps a child develop a conscience guided by his own internal discipline and compassion for others. Discipline that is empathetic, loving, and respectful strengthens the connection between parent and child. Rather than reacting to behavior, discover the needs leading to the behavior. Communicate and craft solutions together while keeping everyone's dignity intact.
  • Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life -It is easier to be emotionally responsive when you feel in balance. Create a support network, set realistic goals, put people before things, and don't be afraid to say "no". Recognize individual needs within the family and meet them to the greatest extent possible without compromising your physical and emotional health. Be creative, have fun with parenting, and take time to care for yourself.
Source: http://www.attachmentparenting.org/principles/principles.php

Attachment Parenting International is currently running an Anniversary Special and you may purchase a membership for only $15! This offer lasts from June 15 - June 30th!

New Perch...

You can now find me at The Baby Head Diaries! I will still be posting my creative endeavors, attempts at organizing my home, and inspiring spaces, along with reflections on motherhood, marriage, and life!

HOPE TO SEE YOU THERE!

The Baby Head Diaries

Monday, June 15, 2009

Swoon...

If I had the space in my own home, I would hope that my office would look just like this!


Swoon...

If I had the space in my own home, I would hope that my office would look just like this!

In real life this is the studio of Dottie Angel.

This really makes me want to start on my inspiration board and NOW! What do you have on your inspiration board? Do you have an inspiration board?

New Look!

The Babyhead Diaries received a new look this weekend! My old look was based on the older version of blogger and some of the new blogger features just wouldn't function. Which leads to the new look you now see, what do you think?

Blogalicious 2009


Sunday, June 14, 2009

Hassan: Year One in Review

I feel so bad for not updating the blog the last two years of my Hassie's life, so here is a photo-retrospective of his first year. If a picture is worth a thousand words, these should speak volumes about the first year with my little big boy!

Months 1 -3



Months 3 - 6



Months 6 - 9



Months 10- 12

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Morning and Night

My favorite parts of the day are the morning and right before we go to sleep at night. Every night I ask Hass "How was your day?" and listen to him talk about all the things he did or thought about during the day. Invariably he tells me, "I missed you mommy." and I reply, "I missed you too." Then I tell him about my day and my favorite parts and what fun I had with him when we got home.

I ask him, "What are you going to dream about?" And he tells me a list of things, usually about animals, the circus, the zoo, mommy, daddy, and now the new baby. Then I tell him what I'm going to dream about and then I say, "Goodnight, sweetheart." and he says, "Goodnight, sweetiepie."

The morning is when I wake him up by kissing him on his cheeks or tickling his long narrow feet. He smiles and puts his arm around my neck, our morning hug. Then I ask him what did he dream about and he tells me. Yesterday it was about the new baby, but this morning he said he had a bad dream so he was a little cranky.

I sing him his favorite morning song..."Get your butt up, get your butt up, in the morning, in the morning, get your butt out of bed!" he laughs and we wait for daddy to come upstairs and bring Hass his clothes for the day. He tells daddy he missed him and hugs him tight. I go into the bathroom and start my routine. Then I hear the pitter-patter of little toddler feet, he's followed me into the bathroom and wants to get ready, too.

I love the morning and the night.

New Posts...

Hello all!

I've imported some posts that have to do with my life as a mother into this blog from my other blog Cre8tive Rookie. I am still deciding as to whether I'll keep both blogs going or just transition to only writing here.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

I wish, I wish...

Okay, I'm going to play a game called I Wish. I Wish is a game where I list things that I would LOVE to buy, but don't have the funds for. This I Wish will be based on things I'd like for the new addition to the family.

I Wish:

  1. UppaBaby 2009 Vista Stroller - seriously is this what love looks like?



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The Big Brother Chronicles

Last night he was telling me all the things he was going to teach the baby:
  • hold a bottle
  • not cry
  • not whine
  • run
  • walk
  • manners

He wants it to be a girl, too with no prompting from us, so I really hope it is. I told him I will be getting him a shirt that says, I'm a Big Brother on it and he can wear it to school when the baby is here.

He likes to play this game where he says, "There's a baby in your tummy." and I say "Yup." Then he goes is it here (and points to some place silly like my forehead), here (points to arm), here (points to neck), etc. then he cracks up laughing and says, No, in here!" and points at my stomach!

Nursery/Shared Room

Monday, June 8, 2009

The Second Time Around...

The second time around
Ooh, the second time is so much better, baby
The second time around
-Shalamar

The second time around for pregnancy, I feel a bit more at ease (although when I was about 10 weeks I had a scare and thought I was miscarrying and ended up in the Emergency Room). I don't know if it's because I've given birth before or if it's because right before I learned I was pregnant I was going through the roughest time of my life (yes THE ROUGHEST) and I had resigned myself to "let go and let God" for everything.

Then suddenly this miracle happened, a baby, divinely placed into our lives at a time when our lives were faltering and we were falling out of "something" with one another. Which is why I hope to name her Nia (Swahili for Purpose). I believe all children have a purpose, but I especially believe that this little one's purpose is/was to bring a clarity and focus in our lives that we were missing. It took some time, but I believe the DH is with me on that as well. So, the second time around I am less worried about anything and everything that first time mothers are worried about. I am less concerned about what to buy and having the perfect this or that. This time around I am just praying more, worrying less, and enjoying myself and my family.

Say it again
The second time around
All that I've been through
I'll do it again just as long as I'm with you
The second time around


20 Weeks Stats

How far along? 20 weeks!
Total weight gain/loss: Do not step on scales, unless I have to.
Maternity clothes? yep.
Stretch marks? No new ones.
Sleep: With my maternity pillow and lots of crazy dreams
Best moment this week: Going out to lunch with my friend Jess!
Movement: Yes, but sporadically.
Food cravings: None. Could use some more fruit, though. In fact I might go downstairs and get a smoothie.
Gender: Don't know yet.
Labor Signs: None
Belly Button in or out? half-way in and out.
What I miss: Being able to stay up late.
What I am looking forward to: Finding out the sex.
Weekly Wisdom: Start thinking about a will, yes it's morbid, but better safe than sorry!
Milestones: Last week, I patted her and she kicked back, we did this for about a minute.

About Hassan - The Birth Story

I had a really good birth experience.

As some of you know I start feeling contractions at 10 the night before, they were really light so I finished up some work I had to do and then tried to get some sleep. At 5 in the morning, I got a contraction that was BIG so I woke up Sharief and was like I'm having contractions. Since he didn't know I was having them all night, he was like are you sure, I'm like yes! So, I say well first I want to do some things because I know that at my hospital once you're there you're there and you're on monitors and can't move around or eat or anything. So, I printed out my phone list, got on the board, ate some breakfast, got on my birthing ball and did some other stuff. So we ended up leaving the house at 8am.

When we get to the hospital after I'm signed in and everything they take me to the Triage unit to make sure I'm in labor, I am at 3 cm. dialated so they get a L&D room ready for me. I go into L&D and I'm in labor for a good while doing it all natural like I planned when BAM I got the mother of all contractions. I was like I don't know if I can do this w/o anything, so I let about 10 of those huge ones hit me and they're coming fast, then I'm like nope I want an epi. before it's too late. After the epidural I'm a little numb, but I can still feel contractions and though they're not as bad they're doozies and my back is starting to hurt on one side, so I tell the dr. and they tell me to press the button for more, I do it about 3 times in 2 hrs. to no avail. So the dr. comes in and gives me another dose, this time it takes...BIG TIME!

So, I am completely numb and things are going well until the nurse and dr. comes in and says the baby's heartbeat dropped and I might have to have a c-section. I told them I really didn't want to have a c-section, so they gave me an oxygen mask so I could do deep breathing to raise his heartbeat. So, I'm doing that when suddenly they're like okay you need to start pushing now, I'm numb as fcuk so DH holds up one leg and I the other and after about maybe 20-30 min. of pushing...HASSAN!!!

He's 7lbs. 7oz and 20.5 inches long. And he has super long arms and legs like his mom and dad. Oh and his feet are HUGE for a baby and they are shaped exactly like Sharief's it's hilarious. I'm hoping he's at least 6'3!

Woo-Hoo Baby #2!

Lilypie



Lots has happened since my last baby shower post, for instance Hassan is now 2 and a half! Being a mommy took a back seat to writing about being a mommy, but I'm back now because WOO-HOO we're having baby #2. Hopefully, I can keep this blog going and update you all on Hassan as well as write about the new baby as well.



Here's a recap of what's been going on:




March 25, 2009

My first doctor's appt. is next Monday. I am a little nervous that I think I'm nearing the end of my first trimester and this will be my first doctor's visit. Luckily, I haven't had any liquor at all during this time and the most I'm worried about is my folic acid (I took a vitamin sporadically before I found out) and the fact that I had a bad cold and used Nyquil for like 3 days. But I am very excited to see where I am in this pregnancy and to get a sonogram. I do have a baby bump now and although it is not really noticeable in clothes I can tell with how my clothes fit. I am excited for new maternity clothes, I gave all my old ones away, plus they were mostly fall/winter clothes and I'll be needing spring/summer stuff for the most part. I am looking into getting some things from H&M and American Apparel. I will be having another shower to celebrate this baby's birth and I am so excited that it will be in WARM weather. So, my bff was saying she would like to throw it in my parent's backyard and that will be fabulous, it's spacious and gorgeous. Plus, they're buying a new cabana for the back, too! The theme will be a "book" shower, so I think she's asking everyone to bring their favorite children's book. We all know I'm hoping for a girl, so I'm trying to find some good middle name options for Nia.



March 30, 2009



Oh my! My doctor's appt is in an hour. I'm nervous and excited. This is such a different experience, with Hass DH went to EVERY appointment with me. I picked a new doc close to my job so I hope we click. I also hope they give me a sonogram today. I can't wait to hear my due date. I have so much nervous energy!



I is back!So uneventful, except I heard little Nia's heartbeat! They're thinking I'm 13-14 wks. which would give me a due date of Sept 22. I'm hoping it's at least first or second week in October. I got my blood work done, but I need to call for an ultrasound. I will try to see if they have one avail. after I get off of work or tmw. during my lunch break. I was really hoping I could see her today. sad.gif I told my boss today I was pregnant, that went well. He's super cool. I will be delivering at a diff. hospital than with Hass, but it's good it's George Washington Univ. Hosp. so that's cool.



I would like to have her after MY birthday which is Oct. 6! I know that's selfish, but it's true! I just know I want some cake and someone being excited over me turning 30 and if I have her my 30th birthday is going to be about me nursing and bathing and sleeping.



May 5, 2009



DH is on the hook for the middle name so it's up in the air now. Back up name if it's a boy is Naim (Ny-eem)or Nasim (Nah-seem). RANDOM STUFF: OMG, this baby won't let me eat anything with sugar in it or maybe it's the High Fructose Corn Syrup in stuff. Even stuff that you normally don't think of as sweet I can taste the sugar in (mainly processed stuff). So she's helping me or FORCING ME to eat healthier and fresher than I normally would. I also feel like because of this and the psycho morning sickness that I weigh less right now in my preg. than I did with Hass man. Too bad I actually didn't keep a diary or journal of my weight at diff. times in my preg. maybe I should start doing that now. Speaking of journaling, I feel bad to say that I don't have a lot in Hass baby book, now I can go back on a non-busy Saturday and fill it in, but I wasn't good at recording stuff. I do have a million pics from day 1 until now, but not a written record of a lot of things. I say to myself I was too busy living the life with him to record it, but I wish I was better at recording it. I hope to do better this time, although it's usu. the 2nd child's baby book that gets the SHAFT! laugh.gif



June 4, 2009



Working on an inspiration board. The baby will probably be sleeping at night in our room, but I think we'll do naps in the crib. So the nursery will be a shared space, so the colors are going to be pretty neutral/work with Hass' bedding. Here's what I have so far: The crib will be a Jenny Lind crib that I will paint green. The materials I will be using is the orange dot with the flower mix pattern on the reverse (flowers for girl) I will also have a custom made elephant for her, that's why that's there. I'm thinking of doing a paint treatment like the bottom pic, with green at the bottom and an orange stripe.

Monday, June 1, 2009

How do I love thee?

Let me count the ways.

Celery green walls and a turquoise Danish mid-century couch!Fabulous home by Missi Pawlecki and Brian Caviness who met in ohio and migrated to california to start birds of ohio. Photo courtesy of Design*Sponge

How do I love thee?

Let me count the ways.

Celery green walls and a turquoise Danish mid-century couch!Fabulous home by Missi Pawlecki and Brian Caviness who met in ohio and migrated to california to start birds of ohio. Photo courtesy of Design*Sponge

Make me over...


What I Want to Look Like!
Even Halle's casual look is sexy and cute!

I don't talk about fashion much here, but I've been a fashion buff for a while. My style has changed over the years, I was more risque at ages 19-22 for example and now I like quirky classics. For the past two years I have announced that I was going to only buy things that I thought I looked fabulous in, not okay, not covered, not dressed, but FABULOUS! This usually works for about a month or two and then I go back to buying clothes on a whim or because I need something different to wear no matter what it looks like. So I have LOTS of clothes, but I end up wearing about half of them. So about once a year I decide to purge and make my vow of only FABULOUS clothing. Well, right now I am pregnant so I will be buying things that are tossable for sure and I DO NOT like spending a lot of money on maternity clothes, but I am VOWING that when I start buying for the fall/winter of 2009 I will only buy things that not only look fabulous, but are QUALITY! So this means cashmere sweaters (in quirky colors and patterns please), designer jeans (gotta love Seven's), and basically really getting my money's worth. So instead of five $20 sweaters from H&M I will get myself one for $100. I want to look like the cool sophisticated mommy, not the one that can't get it together!

Make me over...


What I Want to Look Like!
Even Halle's casual look is sexy and cute!

I don't talk about fashion much here, but I've been a fashion buff for a while. My style has changed over the years, I was more risque at ages 19-22 for example and now I like quirky classics. For the past two years I have announced that I was going to only buy things that I thought I looked fabulous in, not okay, not covered, not dressed, but FABULOUS! This usually works for about a month or two and then I go back to buying clothes on a whim or because I need something different to wear no matter what it looks like. So I have LOTS of clothes, but I end up wearing about half of them. So about once a year I decide to purge and make my vow of only FABULOUS clothing. Well, right now I am pregnant so I will be buying things that are tossable for sure and I DO NOT like spending a lot of money on maternity clothes, but I am VOWING that when I start buying for the fall/winter of 2009 I will only buy things that not only look fabulous, but are QUALITY! So this means cashmere sweaters (in quirky colors and patterns please), designer jeans (gotta love Seven's), and basically really getting my money's worth. So instead of five $20 sweaters from H&M I will get myself one for $100. I want to look like the cool sophisticated mommy, not the one that can't get it together!

Nurseries I love... Sloan's Nursery

This nursery is a friend of mine's for her daughter Sloan who should be here any day now!

Here is her inspiration board she created before she started:
And below is the actual finished nursery. The frames hold pictures of Sloan's mommy and daddy as babies in black and white. Both pictures are nude pictures in similar poses flanking the quote from the inspiration board. The changing table has art work created espscially for the nursery and nearby is a rocker by Ikea. I think Sloan will be perfectly happy in this room and so will her parents.

Nurseries I love... Sloan's Nursery

This nursery is a friend of mine's for her daughter Sloan who should be here any day now!

Here is her inspiration board she created before she started:
And below is the actual finished nursery. The frames hold pictures of Sloan's mommy and daddy as babies in black and white. Both pictures are nude pictures in similar poses flanking the quote from the inspiration board. The changing table has art work created espscially for the nursery and nearby is a rocker by Ikea. I think Sloan will be perfectly happy in this room and so will her parents.



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