I don't know where the phrase, "If you think you can or you think you can't, either way you're right." came from and I'm not going to Google it either, but it's something that has always stuck with me. Now science is backing that adage up with the new study that shows that the brains of successful people vs unsuccessful people actually looks different.
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A person with a "fixed" mindset tends to view themselves with static traits and a deterministic outlook. For these people, intelligence, character and creative ability all cannot be changed in any meaningful way, while success is seen as affirmation of those given abilities and traits. The fixed mindset views the human almost like an already-completed spreadsheet, with things like intelligence and personality operating as unchanging, fundamental characteristics. Thus, "striving for success and avoiding failure at all costs become a way of maintaining the sense of being smart or skilled."
A person with a "growth" mindset, on the other hand, sees challenges as things to overcome and views failure as an opportunity for growth and personal development.
So, the point of all this?
If you're a parent praise your children for their effort no matter the outcome instead of giving out empty praise of "you're smart", so that they will always strive to do better. And for yourself, keep persevering you're an ever evolving and growing person and your success or skill is not a fixed point.