Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Fixed vs Growth Mindset: What it means for You & Your Children


I don't know where the phrase, "If you think you can or you think you can't, either way you're right." came from and I'm not going to Google it either, but it's something that has always stuck with me. Now science is backing that adage up with the new study that shows that the brains of successful people vs unsuccessful people actually looks different.

CLICK ON IMAGE TO ENLARGE - Image Credit: Brain Pickings  

A person with a "fixed" mindset tends to view themselves with static traits and a deterministic outlook. For these people, intelligence, character and creative ability all cannot be changed in any meaningful way, while success is seen as affirmation of those given abilities and traits. The fixed mindset views the human almost like an already-completed spreadsheet, with things like intelligence and personality operating as unchanging, fundamental characteristics. Thus, "striving for success and avoiding failure at all costs become a way of maintaining the sense of being smart or skilled."

A person with a "growth" mindset, on the other hand, sees challenges as things to overcome and views failure as an opportunity for growth and personal development.

Source: News.Mic

So, the point of all this?

If you're a parent praise your children for their effort no matter the outcome instead of giving out empty praise of "you're smart", so that they will always strive to do better. And for yourself, keep persevering you're an ever evolving and growing person and your success or skill is not a fixed point.

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Bye-bye Email Clutter

So, I've tackled my FB addiction as a way to simplify my life as well as make myself more efficient and so far, so good. I've gained at least an hour a day (more like 4 hours to be honest). So, now I'm in the midst of tackling another virtual mess, my Inbox.

I regularly open my Gmail to a whopping 1000 emails, which makes getting to the important stuff super hard. This is even with Gmail's newest efforts to compartmentalize our e-clutter with the primary tab, the promotions tab, and the social tab, which has helped tremendously, but still not enough. So, last week I went through a good chunk of my emails and UNSUBSCRIBED to all these automatic emails I've been getting that's been cluttering up my inbox. Democratic Committee, see ya in Nov., I'll go to you when I want to sign a petition. Ebay alerts, I don't need a weekly reminder about wrap skirts, thank you very much. You get the point. So, although I'm not down to where I want to be, slowly, but surely I'm conquering the e-clutter!

All of this is an attempt at becoming more of a minimalist as a way to make room for the important things in my life. A great resource is 6 Reasons to Embrace Minimalist Living 


Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Facebook Made Me Lazy AKA I Deactivated My FB Account & Haven't Gone Crazy

Yesterday I deactivated my Facebook. Anyone who knows me well, knows how MAJOR that is! It is MAJOR, MAJOR! I love social media, I love all things online (except comments sections, NEVER READ THE COMMENTS SECTIONS!!!), but my love for the online world has been inhibiting my ambitions.

There is a buttload, BUTTLOAD I SAY of things I want to accomplish for 2014 and here it is almost half the year is gone and what have I done! What have I done, I ask you??? Well, I've done some things, but not nearly enough on my barometer of success. And one of the things that's been sucking up my time and energy has been FACEBOOK aka THE DEBIL, THE DEBIL, THE DEBIL!

Okay, maybe not the debil, but I've found myself getting drawn into the time suck that is Facebook instead of banging out my 2014 goals. So, I said to myself, Self, get your ass off of Facebook and continue kicking ass in the real world. Then I replied to myself...just kidding, only crazy people REPLY to themselves. Talking to yourself, fine. Replying, one way ticket to crazy town.

Now here's the paradox of Facebook, Facebook is a GREAT marketing tool. How will you market all your kick ass stuff if you're not on Facebook? Well, I've kept my Facebook Pages for my "stuff" and used one of my business accounts to be the administrator while deactivating my personal account. This way I can take advantage of the good parts of Facebook, while not engaging in the Vampire like aspects of it.

Will I miss Facebook? I don't know yet. I think the biggest thing I'll miss about Facebook is being connected to my family and friends through that medium. But the relationships that really matter will be fostered the OLDEN DAYS of the 80s and 90s. So, although you won't see me on Facebook, you can always e-wave at me here by posting a comment on any post, I read them all!

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Busy as a Bee, but it's Spring!

I've missed "talking" to you all on my blog, but I've been super busy planning my upcoming event for FemPowerMovement, the Love Your Life Tour, DC. Did you get a ticket? After it's over, I'll make sure to post pics and a recap here as well as the official blog. But I wanted to stop in and talk a little about what's been on my mind lately.

 1. Hair! I want a new hairstyle for the spring & summer. I'm not sure what to do, but I'm leaning towards something like this.

2. Easter! OMG, where has the time gone. I need to do baskets for the boys. I'd like to make something like this, but I'll probably just buy a pre-made one this year.

3. Spring! It's been here, it's gone away. It came back, it went away again. I'm just ready for consistent seventy degree weather.

4. Vacation! I need one. I need a break from my dayjob. I'm starting to get a headache almost every day.

5. New Clothes! I need new clothes for spring since my old spring clothes I couldn't fit anymore and I gave to Goodwill. On my list some light and airy pants like this

What's been on your mind lately?

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

This Mom's Indulgence

As a busy working mom of three, it's rare I get time to myself, but when I do my guilty pleasure and personal indulgence is taking in a movie by myself or with a friend.With all of the choices of things to do with my time, why do I choose to spend those two precious hours in a dark room with strangers?

Movies have the power to transport you anywhere and you can immerse yourself in the main character and be anyone you wish. Exotic locales, swoon worthy leading men, action, drama, laughs, it's all there for the price of a movie ticket.

When my husband and I first started dating we went to the movies every single weekend and that tradition continued until the birth of our first child. Nowdays if we catch a movie it's probably some Disney-esque musical with a talking car, princess, or a group of animals looking to make their way back to the zoo they call home. But when one of the 'rents are doing grandparent duty, we always sneak out to take in dinner and a movie.

What's your indulgence? 

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Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Live Your Best Life, a Life of Connection

One of my passions is connecting people to one another and helping people. I'm the person at the party that will meet someone, talk to them for a while, and then leave them with the name and number of the perfect hairdresser, restaurant, or counselor for them. Earlier this year I thought about how I could use some of my talents (event planning - 5yrs for companies and non-profits) to connect women to other awesome women and the Fem-Power Movement was born. I'm holding my first event in the DC area and I have an awesome line up of speakers that will empower those attending to live their best lives in the areas of relationships, personal style, and personal finance.

When I sought to choose speakers for this event, I thought about the women online that I go to when I want inspiration or information. So, we have author and entrepreneur Alex Elle speaking on relationships, we have Keri Henderson speaking on personal style (she was trained by What Not to Wear stylist Stacy London), and Ginger Dean founder of Girls Just Wanna Have Funds, the #1 Personal Finance Website for women. Pretty damn impressive, if I do say so myself.  These are the type of women that inspire me daily and I wanted them to inspire you as well.

I hope you'll join me on this journey and come out to our event if you're in the DC Area.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014